Bullying is any behavior that is negative and unwanted, may it be verbal, psychological or physical that is conducted by an individual or group against another person or people. It can occur at any age and may be short or long term. Signs of bullying include depression, Loss of confidence, fear to go to school, repeated signs of bruising and injuries just to name a few. Victims of bullying are often afraid to speak out since they fear the consequences. The longer the time spent experiencing the horrible attacks, the harder it is to speak out, and the more prone one is in hurting themselves especially via suicide. Usually, the bullies themselves are fighting their own demons like low self-esteem and lack of confidence, and by hurting others they think that they acquire power. Others may be reacting to challenging or painful changes in their lives such as bereavement, abandonment or divorce. All parents should be keen on monitoring their children, not just the victims but also the bullies so that they can be stopped. Bullying is important and should be given much attention because it is something that can scar someone for life, and can also cost the lives of many.
Now there are those that argue bullying is not only okay but very necessary. That it prepares one for the real world since out there not everyone will like you or be nice to you. Thus knowing how to deal with a bully especially in school can give someone the necessary skills to fight through bills and mortgages. That is absolutely wrong. Bullying is not just in form of hurtful words that one can easily ignore, in as much as words cut deep. There is physical bullying which is usually more than anyone can bear. In the real world, not everyone will like you, but not everyone will be punching and cutting your hair almost every other day. Also, bullying is not only in school, there are other kinds such as bullying between a child and his/her nanny.
I understand that in order to end this vice, everyone needs to be involved, I included. Simple things like checking up on friends, classmates or family friends and being keen on any behavioral change can help out a lot in noticing when someone is being bullied. In as much as there are those in support of bullying, no form of violence can be excused. In case I identify any case of bullying either physical or verbal, the right thing to do is report to the concerned authorities, in this case, the school management. I could also encourage my friends who will also encourage their other friends to be actively involved in co-curricular activities which will minimize idleness and maximize positive growth.
In future, all one can hope for is that things will get better. That, however, will be a bit difficult due to the rapidly growing technology and everyone shifting to online interactions. Cases of cyberbullying are on a rise. And with the distance and anonymity of people online, most of the cases will go unpunished. My hope is that humanity will be restored and people will start being less rude and violent, and more friendly and welcoming. Also, hoping that there will be a better grasp of bullying, which will make it easier to tackle.
Since I joined college, I’ve come to understand a different kind of bullying, one where the victims are disabled. They literally cannot fight back or defend themselves, and the bullies take advantage of that since most of the time they are not even reported. People will just assume that the victims are doing that to themselves since they are not okay.
There was one incident where a group of five students would harass this girl, beat her up and even cut her hair. The mother of the victim sought help but no one was willing to help. This one time a police officer arrested the leader of the gang after they cut her head while shaving her hair. This whole time his mother is defending him. When he got released the first thing he did was to go to the victim’s house and set it on fire. It was basically a long struggle that was unending, and the mother of the disabled girl couldn’t afford private housing s they couldn’t move. That has made me want to fight off bullies even more for the sake of those people who have no power, yet continue to be harassed and victimized. It’s not just a negative comment about someone’s hair, now they are literally shaving it. These bullies need to be stopped and that means everyone is actively involved.